Misconceptions

It's human nature to make judgements on other lives, we do it everyday.  We assume we know what people are going through, and we decide how they should handle the situations they are in. I will admit I'm guilty of it.  The saying "walk a mile in someone else's shoes" holds so much meaning.  What would we do in someone else's situation?  I wouldn't want anyone to "walk a mile" in our shoes over the last 3 years. 

 As I sit here at 530 in the morning, not being able to sleep, I can feel our baby moving around inside.  I am so in love with him already.  He has a name, clothes, a bedding set and dozens of family and friends awaiting his arrival in April. 

The love and anticipation is amazing and exciting, yet it does not take away the anxiety and apprehension. With every pregnancy "milestone" hit there has been some sense of relief, but then there is another "milestone" to make it to.  I'm sure some people think "why not just be grateful for this pregnancy"? "why dwell on the past"? Grateful doesn't begin to describe how I feel about this baby, but the biggest misconception out there is that this pregnancy takes away the other four; that the happiness for Logan's arrival makes all the unanswered questions go away.  No matter the circumstances, one child gained cannot make up for one child lost. There will always been questions of "what if". 

I have a dear friend who says she will never again question long periods of time in between people's children.  You just never know what people have been through during those years between their kids. It could have been by choice like the time between my brother Michael and I, or it could be by unfortunate circumstance.  I am sure people questioned my grandmother about why my mom was an only child, not knowing that my mom was not an only child, but that my grandmother had a still-born years before. 

It's not about stopping human nature; we will always make judgements.  The goal, I guess is to be mindful of the judgements we make and the misconceptions they lead to. We never know what is or has taken place in someones life.